SMART Coaching Plans are Personal
- Deborah Ann Martin
- 16 hours ago
- 4 min read
Why Real Change Requires Plans Built for the Person, Not the Problem
We live in a world where comparison is constant. People compare their progress, timelines, healing, bodies, careers, and lives to those of others who appear to be doing “better.” That comparison quietly shapes how people approach goals.
They assume that if two people have the same problem, they should use the same plan.
That assumption is one of the biggest reasons people feel like they fail.
SMART coaching exists to challenge that idea.
Because while two people may share a similar struggle, no two people live the same life.
SMART Coaching Plans Are Not One Size Fits All
Many programs, planners, and online advice promote a universal solution:
Follow this routine
Use this plan
Stick to this schedule
Do what worked for them
When it does not work, people blame themselves instead of questioning the plan.
But in coaching, this is a fundamental truth:
No two people with the same problem should have the exact same goals.
They may have similar goals.
They may share themes.
But the steps, pace, structure, and expectations must be different.
Why Comparison Sabotages Progress
Comparison creates unrealistic expectations.
When people compare themselves to others, they often ignore:
physical health differences
mental health capacity
trauma history
caregiving responsibilities
financial limitations
work schedules
energy levels
life seasons
They look at someone else’s outcome and assume they should be able to replicate it.
SMART coaching removes comparison from the process entirely.
Instead of you asking:“Why can’t I do what they’re doing?”
SMART coaching asks: “What works for you right now?”
That shift protects self-worth.
Personalized SMART coaching does not mean creating easier goals.
It means creating appropriate goals.
In coaching, personalization means:
finding the true starting point
understanding current capacity
acknowledging physical and emotional limits
adjusting expectations without judgment
building a plan around real life, not ideal life
This is not lowering standards.
This is aligning goals with reality.
Finding the Real Starting Point
Many people choose a starting point based on where they think they should be, not where they actually are.
For example:
starting with a 30-minute walk when their body cannot support it
planning a strict budget when finances are already unstable
setting productivity goals when they are burned out
committing to daily habits when life is unpredictable
In SMART coaching, the starting point is discovered, not assumed.
Coaches ask:
What is happening in your life right now
What feels manageable today
What has not worked before, and why
What would feel supportive instead of demanding
The starting point is where progress begins.
When a Goal Feels Too Hard, It Is Not a Setback
One of the most important principles of SMART coaching is this:
Struggling with a goal is not failure. It is information.
If a person plans a goal they believe they can do, and then finds they cannot, coaching does not label that as a setback.
It becomes an opportunity to refine.
Instead of:“I failed.”
The question becomes:“What needs to be broken down further?”
This might mean:
reducing time
lowering frequency
changing the method
adding support
slowing the pace
Adjustment is success in SMART coaching.
Why Two People With the Same Problem Need Different Plans
Let’s say two people both want to improve their health.
One may:
work long hours
manage chronic pain
care for children or parents
have limited mobility
Another may:
have flexible time
higher energy
fewer physical limitations
Their goals might sound similar, but their plans should not be identical.
SMART coaching respects:
physical ability
emotional bandwidth
time availability
access to resources
That is how goals become sustainable.
SMART Coaching Accounts for the Whole Person
SMART coaching does not isolate goals from the rest of life.
Coaches look at:
work demands
family obligations
health conditions
mental and emotional load
financial stress
personal values
Goals are shaped to fit inside that reality.
This is why SMART coaching is so effective for people who have tried and failed with generic plans.
Why Personalized SMART Coaching Protects Self-Worth
When people repeatedly fail at goals that were never designed for them, they internalize that failure.
They stop trusting themselves.
They stop trying.
They stop believing change is possible.
Personalized SMART coaching changes the narrative.
It shows people:
they are not broken
the plan was not aligned
their limits are valid
progress can look different
This rebuilds confidence slowly and safely.
SMART Coaching Is About Collaboration, Not Instruction
In coaching, plans are not imposed. They are created together.
SMART coaching asks:
What feels realistic to you
What support do you need
What pace feels safe
What matters most right now
This collaboration increases commitment and follow-through because the person owns the plan.
Why Similar Goals Can Still Look Different
Two people may both want:
better sleep
less stress
financial stability
improved routines
But one might start with:
going to bed five minutes earlier
Another might start with:
removing one stressor before bedtime
Both are valid
Both are SMART.
Both are personal.
This Is Why We Emphasize Personalized SMART Coaching
This website exists to help people heal, rebuild, and grow without comparison, shame, or pressure.
We emphasize personalized SMART coaching because:
people are not interchangeable
circumstances matter
capacity changes
healing is not linear
Progress should feel supportive, not punishing.
What We Want People to Understand
You are not behind.
You are not doing it wrong.
You do not need someone else’s plan.
You need a plan that fits you.
SMART coaching is not about copying success.
It is about creating it in a way that honors your life.
Final Thought
Real change does not come from forcing yourself into someone else’s process.
It comes from building a path that fits your body, your mind, your responsibilities, and your season of life.
That is what SMART coaching is designed to do.
And that is why no two plans should ever look exactly the same.
When You Want Support Beyond This Post
If you need more than reflection, these options are here to support you.
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A safe, welcoming space to talk about anything on your mind. No fixing, no pressure, just connection and understanding.
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Support focused on breaking life challenges into smaller SMART goals so you can move forward with clarity and less overwhelm.
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You are welcome to choose the support that fits your needs right now.
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